Stop Celebrating Bad Parenting Just Because Someone Has Kids| accountability| self growth| parenting

Listen, I want to talk to you about something. Just because someone create a child don't mean they're a great parent. Any woman can lay on her back and have a child. She can talk about how much she got baby fever and still be a terrible mother. You have a man who can, you know, procreate and have a child and be a terrible father. Everyone is not meant to be parents. The reason being you have so many men and women who create children at a wedlock and then put them up for adoption or give them to their grandparents or give them to their their mom.

Then you have children who resent their parents because they never raised them. They had someone else to raise them and I can see why those children soon to be adults, resent those parents. The reason being is because, you know, they wasn't around as they should or like they should. And they later came back to, you know, hunt them. By what I mean by later, you know, hunt them is like the child don't want to be around them. The child say the grandparent is their mom, the grandpa or the grandma is the mom, the grandpa is the dad.

And if we being honest, a lot of grandparents are great parents. They even better parents when they have to take care of their child's children. And we have to shed light on this. Most men and women don't understand that just because you have birth this child doesn't mean it automatically make you a great parent. What makes you a great parent is installing confidence in them, setting them up for success. Even if you are not in a great position to set him up for success, how can you do that? One, you got to put God first.

Acknowledge Him in all your ways. He shall direct your path. Two work hard so they don't have to work hard. 3 Even if you and the the child's father or the child's mother don't work out, y'all have to have a great Co parent system so that child can see a healthy great a healthy and a great Co parenting teamwork. Most men and women who have children, you know what I'm saying, are not great Co parents. One person is hanging on what the person did from the past to them. And I know that can't come back and hunt people later because not everyone is going to forgive.

Not everyone will be healed. You know, especially from ongoing traumas. 3 or 4. You have to work hard. You got to work hard so your children don't work hard as you, you want them to be set up for the future, not set up to fail. Most of us were, you know, I wouldn't say I was set up to fail. I just feel like I had to work a little bit harder. And this is not towards anybody. You know that I know this is just me speaking about the things that I hear and the things that I see on the Internet most. I'm telling you, there are so many women who have given their babies up to for an adoption because they know they couldn't carry their child at that age that was ripping and running.

You don't supposed to. Yeah, I can't tell you what you don't supposed to be doing, but a lot of young ladies be getting pregnant at a young age. 13141516 Then they were raised, you know what I'm saying, to keep that child. Son was raised to get rid of it. So you have women who are making decisions and men are making decisions based off of, you know, in the moment instead of thinking in the future. When you have a child, you got to think about the future. It's no longer about you. You got to think about what's going to make my child better than me.

You got to think about that. Most women and most men don't think about that when that whenever they're not putting on that condom, they're not thinking about, all right, let's wait. You know what I'm saying? Let's we're not, we're not ready. You know, I'm 17, I'm eighteen. I'm not ready to have a child right now. Most people don't think about it until later on, and then once later on get here.

They're blaming other people, you know, instead of taking a accountability and saying, hey, I didn't set my children up for success, but I'm working towards it.

But what makes people not great parents is that they don't try. Most people don't try. Most parents don't try. One thing I can say like my parents are trying. One thing my son going to say like my dad did. That's the thing my dad did. My dad helped me and he got me to where I needed to be every day. I'm figuring out other ways to, you know, be stable. So my son, by time my son is like 8 or 9 or 10, the things that most Americans are stressing about or millennials are stressing about, my son does not stress about it at all.

He don't even have a thought of that.

That's what make parents not good parents, not thinking, not putting forth the effort, not trying. Wise counsel if you don't have wise counsel as a parent is is going to show and it's very important to have wise counsel. You just don't need two people. You need other people that believe in God, who loves God that have great intentions for you and that child. If you don't have that, then you will not be able to progress the way God wants you to progress. And God will send you people that is right for you, that will help you along the way.

But you cannot let pride or ego get in the way. What's going to make you a great parent is working, working your tail off, OK? It's not about you no more. You got to do the unnecessary things you got to do, yes, not say unnecessary things. You got to do the things that you don't like so you can do the things that you love. My Mama tell me that all the time, like you got to do what you got to do to do what you want to do right now. I got to do what I got to do eventually. Soon I'm going to do what I love to do.

Isaiah 60, 2020. I mean 22. Everything will happen at the, you know, the right time, you know, but I know the hard work that I'm putting in is going to pay off. I'm telling my son going to be good in a couple years, he going to be good, But I wanted, I wanted to, you know, just shed light on this. Just because you have a child and make you a great parent, it's the actions behind it that makes you a great parent. You got to put it in the work. Nobody is going to hand it to you. You know, you have to put your child in a better situation so they don't have to go through what you went through.

You don't want your child to resent you because you you quit or you gave up or you sent them to your mom or your dad. Now they growing up resenting you because you could have done that. You could have, you know what I'm saying? Most people think like you could have just never had me on this earth. You could have just aborted me. And I see people logic. I see people logic, but it's the actions that make parents not good parents. If you don't try you, you're a terrible parent. If you always partying, you know, always going out, you know what I'm saying?

You always put men before your children. You're not a great parent If you putting women before your children. You're not a great parent if you're not installing confidence in your child, installing God into your child or your children. I'm not going to say you're not a great parent, but it's very important to have God in the center of your relationships because that is how you're going to create a bond with your children. Children do not care about money. They care about your presence. That's what I mean by actions.

Your actions will show if you a great parent or not. Children care about water, they care about eating. You know they care about going to the park although it's hot. They don't care. As long as they got their dad or their mom there, they don't care. They don't care about that. They don't see the material things that we see. They see their mom and dad. They don't see your struggles. They just see my mom and dad is here with me. Children can't tell if, especially the little infant, they can't tell if y'all struggling as long as you there.

They going to see that when they wake up, they going to see that you know you're doing a good job when your children or your child run to you after you had a long day at work. Come on man, like that's fire. I I remember and my son still do this like I come home, bro. He just run to me like dad, like that's hard. Like come on now, like it's the little things that make you a great parent. You installing confidence, telling your child like, hey, you're going to be this, you're going to be great. You're smart, you know, you're teaching them at a young age.

Hey, save your money, put your money up. Do this. You know, you can't spend that much we on the budget, you know, just putting in the effort. That's that's what makes you a great parent. You don't got to be perfect. It's just effort. Just try harder, you know, like there's a lot of money to be made and I'm I'm going to come across it the right place at the right time by the right people. I'm going to come across it and I wouldn't have to work as hard, you know, and plus I'm young. So like, I'm going to continue to work.

I'm going to continue to, you know, strive so my son don't have to ever stress about dad, can I get this? And I'm like, son, I don't got it. Then he got to ask somebody else right now. I got it. Let's do it, you know what I'm saying? So just because you have a child does not make you a great parent. If this resonated with you, if you like the topics that I'm talking about, man, make sure you tell a friend to tell a friend and make sure you check out my latest episodes. I'm dropping every Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursdays at 5:00 AM and make sure you, you know, subscribe or follow.

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